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scam alerts: Scammer?A single mom in Danville, VA, posted a desperate message on aidpage last month

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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
No, that is why I am getting a double degree. I will also have a technical associates in social services with my certification in all types of counseling such as chemical dependency and family. That should help me find part time work while I continue in to my bachelors and eventually my masters in social work. I also have a lot of extra certifications in working with at risk youth and special needs. I found out a long time ago that I have a special knack for working with the "throw away kids" I am sure that my professor will have no problem writing the letter. He once offered to go to court with me over a custody battle for my 2 oldest kids. He is a tough old bird, but once you ruffle is feathers a bit, he will become your greatest allies.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Including a *strong* letter of recommendation has worked for me several times. Make sure your professor knows how important it is for you - just don't tell him you will send it to everyone :)

Try to find what you are good at. Be sure that you are employable - arts degree holders have difficulty finding jobs. Americans don't like to be told this truth - we get offended at it because we want to feel "fulfilled"..
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
I am just outside Seattle. That is a great idea about the letter of recommendation. I will get on that right away! Just so you know, my last boss was also my roommate and supposedly my friend. I was let go from my job under false pretenses. I have spoke to a lawyer and was told I have a strong case but I just do not feel right doing that. As for the degrees. I am working on a double degree. One is a general Associates of arts and the other is a technical associates in social and human services. It means I will have certifications along with the degree. My long term goal is to get my masters in social work.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
I am very glad things worked out for you. What is AA-T/AA?
Also I had a thought. Get your professor or teacher who respects you, to write a letter of recommendation for a job for you "To whomsoever it may concern". Ask him to write about your attitude and quality of work. Attach this to *each* resume you send out (scan and attach to electronic copy of resume). It will cancel out any negative stuff from your earlier boss.
Just curious, where are you located?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
I thank you for the offer. I would never give someone cash either as I understand what people do with the money sometimes. If I were to accept your offer, I would have no problem with that. Strangely enough while you and I were having a conversation earlier, my grandmother called me and asked me to find out if it was to late to save my apartment. After some research I was able to determine how much money I would need and relayed the information to her. Not long after she called me to tell me that a cashiers check would be mailed on Monday to my complex manager. I am not sure how she came up with these funds but I am very thankful and blessed to be able to say that we will not have to move or become homeless. The condition she made with me was that under no circumstance was I allowed to quite school. I feel very blessed right now. By her doing this for us we will be ok and I will be able to keep up on bills as soon as I get my next financial aid check. It will be very tight but doable. As for volunteering. I plan to begin volunteering for the local Neighbors in need program in our community next month. I will be helping others going through tough times, find resources and information to help them help themselves. That will be for 4 hours every other Saturday. As I am no longer in need of your generosity, I would ask that you offer the same to someone else in need. By the way, I am almost done with my AA-T/AA in social services/counseling, and wonder if this was not Gods plan to give first hand experience.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to colleensue
Yes, I am offended at your post. If what you say were true, then I would not be offering to help people on this site.
Apparently you did not read my post carefully. She did not provide any verification that she had volunteered at the shelter. She did not provide any information about the utility company, nor how I could contact them to verify disconnection and to pay directly. She just wanted me to send money to her.
Actually *you* sound bitter and judgmental. As for having a cell phone, you seem to minimize what is required under a 2 year contract. $50 a month after taxes and fees is the minimum you will spend. This is wasteful especially if you are going around asking strangers for their hard-earned money.
For several years, my wife and I *shared* one cell phone; in spite of my working in the telecom field and at decent jobs.
I dislike scammers, and I dislike people who live extravagantly and ask other people for money.
If you want to quote the Bible, then there are several verses that say, "He who does not work shall not eat.", "Everyone of you should work with his own hands".
Regarding whether we should judge or not, Jesus said, "When you judge, judge rightly". (see a link here http://www.biblefood.org/...)

Update: there is nothing wrong with having a cell phone but if your electricity has been cut off and your children are living without fan or air conditioning in scorching heat of July - and last month were record highs, then for me, my priority would be to stop the phone and do all it takes to get the air turned on.
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colleensue
You no I agree with alot of what you said but its the way you say it it may be just me but you sound as if you are bitter and mad that people ask for help and I would like you to no that where I live the homeless shelters have waiting lists and god teaches us to help others and me being in the mess I am in still share what I have with those in my area who have even less and I at any min can be homeless. But I guess thats my fault for getting hurt on my job and being permanently injured . Its my fault its taking our wonderful government over six years of me fighting them to get the social security disability that I worked for and paid into all my life. I deserve to loose what I have left and become homeless again .The first two years after getting hurt wasnt enough. You are telling people to loose their bad habits I dont drink or smoke nor do drugs. I have not been out to eat for as long as I can remember and as far as where someone can charge a cell phone at whose eletric is shut off the library is one place. And some people has family who honestly dont give a crap not everyone comes from a family that is loving and caring. My family is all gone and my brother is lost in his world and drinks. As I have said before dont be so judgemental of everyone because everyones story and situation is different. If you dont want to help dont if you do then do so with a kind giving and happy heart. God says to feed the hungry and take care of the widows. He dose not ask you to judge them and as far as the lady with the iphone sprint has iphones for 99 dollars with a two year contract so even expensive phones can be gotten for cheap with signed contracts any one who owns a cell phone knows this. Quit judgeing people thats gods job not yours its good and smart to verify stuff but just dont sound so bitter about the people who ask for help. Someday you may be the one on here asking for help. Hope you dont take offense at this I am soory if you do but your post sounds bitter to me.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Are you willing to volunteer for 5 hours at a local shelter in exchange for $50? I will not give you cash, but will pay $50 towards a legitimate bill you owe, directly. (No personal debts, but actual needs).
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colleensue
I am a person in need and this lady dose not know how blessed she was to get an offer of help. A real offef of help. All I get is offers from scammers she ought to be ashamex of herself it makes it hard cor people like me who will do what ever is aked to get help.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
I never said anyone was pushing me away. I said they couldn't help me. Not everyone is in a position to help others.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Nobody is blaming you. As you rightly said, "it is a time to learn from your past to better manage your future". Wise people have said that the first step to recovery is to face reality. If there are two ex-fathers, and your bosses and relatives and in-laws who are pushing you away, then there is something you should be seeing. We do not know what it is - perhaps you should pray and ask God to show it to you.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Aww...
Can you put in a child support for him?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
Sadly he lives only 15 miles away but still chooses not to be in the girls lives. Thats ok it sounds like my grandmother has changing her mind about helping!
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Then you see, you already know the answer as to why she won't help.
Usually, us women already know the answer.

Where is the father of your other kids? Can he or his family help?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
no and yes that is part of it. It is also because my mother in law can not handle things like this well and wants little to nothing to do with it.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Hey,
Are all your children by your ex?
If not,that would be a problem for them.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to goodnewsforyou
ok,thanks
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
wow, as you said, you do not know me. As I stated before my ex abused me and his mother took his side. I am not sure why you think I have problems getting along with people. If it is because I have a voice and know how to advocate for my family, I am not sorry. It seems to me you are just looking to push blame on me no matter what. Thank you for sharing your opinions with me. Just remember that there was only one perfect person to ever walk the earth. Next time you should stop and think that crisis is not a time to blame, it is a time to learn from your past to better manage your future.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Anonymous40784
she may not see this as you just replied to me - not her post. If you delete it and copy paste it to reply to her post, she will see it.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
We do not know you personally so cannot say anything for sure. Sorry to be blunt; it does look like you have problems getting along with people and you are not facing up to what the issue is with *you*. I am sure they have problems too. However, if you go to church, then ask the pastor to counsel you on your real problems. Otherwise ask your ex-husbands or ex-supervisors for feedback without arguing with them.
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