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scam alerts: Scammer?A single mom in Danville, VA, posted a desperate message on aidpage last month

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colleensue
I am a person in need and this lady dose not know how blessed she was to get an offer of help. A real offef of help. All I get is offers from scammers she ought to be ashamex of herself it makes it hard cor people like me who will do what ever is aked to get help.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
I never said anyone was pushing me away. I said they couldn't help me. Not everyone is in a position to help others.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Nobody is blaming you. As you rightly said, "it is a time to learn from your past to better manage your future". Wise people have said that the first step to recovery is to face reality. If there are two ex-fathers, and your bosses and relatives and in-laws who are pushing you away, then there is something you should be seeing. We do not know what it is - perhaps you should pray and ask God to show it to you.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Aww...
Can you put in a child support for him?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
Sadly he lives only 15 miles away but still chooses not to be in the girls lives. Thats ok it sounds like my grandmother has changing her mind about helping!
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Then you see, you already know the answer as to why she won't help.
Usually, us women already know the answer.

Where is the father of your other kids? Can he or his family help?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
no and yes that is part of it. It is also because my mother in law can not handle things like this well and wants little to nothing to do with it.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Hey,
Are all your children by your ex?
If not,that would be a problem for them.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to goodnewsforyou
ok,thanks
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
wow, as you said, you do not know me. As I stated before my ex abused me and his mother took his side. I am not sure why you think I have problems getting along with people. If it is because I have a voice and know how to advocate for my family, I am not sorry. It seems to me you are just looking to push blame on me no matter what. Thank you for sharing your opinions with me. Just remember that there was only one perfect person to ever walk the earth. Next time you should stop and think that crisis is not a time to blame, it is a time to learn from your past to better manage your future.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Anonymous40784
she may not see this as you just replied to me - not her post. If you delete it and copy paste it to reply to her post, she will see it.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
We do not know you personally so cannot say anything for sure. Sorry to be blunt; it does look like you have problems getting along with people and you are not facing up to what the issue is with *you*. I am sure they have problems too. However, if you go to church, then ask the pastor to counsel you on your real problems. Otherwise ask your ex-husbands or ex-supervisors for feedback without arguing with them.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
Yes to both questions and I think part of it is my ex and his mother are not excepting of my other 2 kids.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to goodnewsforyou
They may have some issues against you.
You never know what their son has told them. And, we know some men do lie.
When we get a certain age & start ailing in our bodies, many times children gets on their nerves.
Have they helped you in the past?
Have you helped them in the past?

The best way to find out why they won't help is to simple ask them?

I wish you the best.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
My schooling is paid for that is not the issue! It also works the same for Social service degrees.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Information about going back to school tuition-free for a healthcare career, here is the info in case anyone is interested. Please forward to anyone who might benefit.
The scholarships are from the Government.

Nurse practitioner
Certified nurse-midwife
Physician assistant
Medicine (MD or DO)
Dentistry (DDS or DMD)

http://nhsc.hrsa.gov/scho...

"The NHSC scholarship is a competitive program that pays tuition, fees and provides a living stipend to students enrolled in accredited medical (MD or DO), dental, nurse practitioner, certified nurse midwife and physician assistant training. Upon graduation, scholarship recipients work as primary health care clinicians between two and four years in a community-based site in a high-need Health Professional Shortage Area that has applied to and been approved by the NHSC as a service site. Scholars in service earn a competitive salary paid by the employing site. Recovery Act funding enabled the NHSC to make nearly 250 new scholarship awards between 2009 and 2011. (note there are a lot more than 250 scholarships)"

http://www.hhs.gov/recove...
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needhelpfor3
I like this posting its the truth cause there are real people out here that have nobody and noone in desperate times, such as myself. Example: I was at the grocery store i am calculating all my items so i know i wouldnt go over, well so this laday in front of me its her turn to pay has a full basket of items and time to pay she is caring a ipone, coach purse,coach wallet to match the purse,and coach shoes that are matching ,gold rings, and the whole nine yards of a match and very expensive alphet. This woman pulls out a food stamp card to purchase her basket full of groceries. I was done paying walking home with a few of my groceries seen her in a escalade(cadillac), Must be nice I say to myself.
How do these people do it? I am literally considered a homeless woman if I didnt have my daughter and her husband. I am carless and this is the main reason why I am struggling and getting out of a relationship from a heroine addict of 6 years, once upon a time i was a homeowner and money in my pocket and one to help others in time of need. I am just trying to save up whatever i can to buy a car and start school and back to working. I do believe in the power of prayer,Amen.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Why is it so hard for you to believe that someone could be in a situation like mine? When I am questioned like this, as I have been by many lately, it makes me feel worthless and like a failure. I am doing everything in my power to keep my family together. I refuse to do anything illegal and it seems like that is all that is left
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
One of the dads and his family have nothing to do with the girls, Trust me I have tried over and over just to get them to visit but they refuse. As for the other, I receive minimal child support. His family has told us out right that we can not stay there. I am able to do laundry there but then get charged for it later. I am not sure why they are this way. They used to be very supportive but over the years they have changed. I think part of it is they blame me for all of their sons problems. I refused to be abused and that was what changed the way they treated me. They will watch the kids on few occasions if it is an emergency but other than that, nothing.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
"My children's fathers and grandparents refuse to help". Why not? I cant believe they are all evil. What do they say to you?
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