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scam alerts: Scammer?A single mom in Danville, VA, posted a desperate message on aidpage last month

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Anonymous40784   in reply to goodnewsforyou
ok,thanks
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
wow, as you said, you do not know me. As I stated before my ex abused me and his mother took his side. I am not sure why you think I have problems getting along with people. If it is because I have a voice and know how to advocate for my family, I am not sorry. It seems to me you are just looking to push blame on me no matter what. Thank you for sharing your opinions with me. Just remember that there was only one perfect person to ever walk the earth. Next time you should stop and think that crisis is not a time to blame, it is a time to learn from your past to better manage your future.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Anonymous40784
she may not see this as you just replied to me - not her post. If you delete it and copy paste it to reply to her post, she will see it.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
We do not know you personally so cannot say anything for sure. Sorry to be blunt; it does look like you have problems getting along with people and you are not facing up to what the issue is with *you*. I am sure they have problems too. However, if you go to church, then ask the pastor to counsel you on your real problems. Otherwise ask your ex-husbands or ex-supervisors for feedback without arguing with them.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Anonymous40784
Yes to both questions and I think part of it is my ex and his mother are not excepting of my other 2 kids.
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Anonymous40784   in reply to goodnewsforyou
They may have some issues against you.
You never know what their son has told them. And, we know some men do lie.
When we get a certain age & start ailing in our bodies, many times children gets on their nerves.
Have they helped you in the past?
Have you helped them in the past?

The best way to find out why they won't help is to simple ask them?

I wish you the best.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
My schooling is paid for that is not the issue! It also works the same for Social service degrees.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Information about going back to school tuition-free for a healthcare career, here is the info in case anyone is interested. Please forward to anyone who might benefit.
The scholarships are from the Government.

Nurse practitioner
Certified nurse-midwife
Physician assistant
Medicine (MD or DO)
Dentistry (DDS or DMD)

http://nhsc.hrsa.gov/scho...

"The NHSC scholarship is a competitive program that pays tuition, fees and provides a living stipend to students enrolled in accredited medical (MD or DO), dental, nurse practitioner, certified nurse midwife and physician assistant training. Upon graduation, scholarship recipients work as primary health care clinicians between two and four years in a community-based site in a high-need Health Professional Shortage Area that has applied to and been approved by the NHSC as a service site. Scholars in service earn a competitive salary paid by the employing site. Recovery Act funding enabled the NHSC to make nearly 250 new scholarship awards between 2009 and 2011. (note there are a lot more than 250 scholarships)"

http://www.hhs.gov/recove...
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needhelpfor3
I like this posting its the truth cause there are real people out here that have nobody and noone in desperate times, such as myself. Example: I was at the grocery store i am calculating all my items so i know i wouldnt go over, well so this laday in front of me its her turn to pay has a full basket of items and time to pay she is caring a ipone, coach purse,coach wallet to match the purse,and coach shoes that are matching ,gold rings, and the whole nine yards of a match and very expensive alphet. This woman pulls out a food stamp card to purchase her basket full of groceries. I was done paying walking home with a few of my groceries seen her in a escalade(cadillac), Must be nice I say to myself.
How do these people do it? I am literally considered a homeless woman if I didnt have my daughter and her husband. I am carless and this is the main reason why I am struggling and getting out of a relationship from a heroine addict of 6 years, once upon a time i was a homeowner and money in my pocket and one to help others in time of need. I am just trying to save up whatever i can to buy a car and start school and back to working. I do believe in the power of prayer,Amen.
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
Why is it so hard for you to believe that someone could be in a situation like mine? When I am questioned like this, as I have been by many lately, it makes me feel worthless and like a failure. I am doing everything in my power to keep my family together. I refuse to do anything illegal and it seems like that is all that is left
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
One of the dads and his family have nothing to do with the girls, Trust me I have tried over and over just to get them to visit but they refuse. As for the other, I receive minimal child support. His family has told us out right that we can not stay there. I am able to do laundry there but then get charged for it later. I am not sure why they are this way. They used to be very supportive but over the years they have changed. I think part of it is they blame me for all of their sons problems. I refused to be abused and that was what changed the way they treated me. They will watch the kids on few occasions if it is an emergency but other than that, nothing.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
"My children's fathers and grandparents refuse to help". Why not? I cant believe they are all evil. What do they say to you?
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Mom trying to stay strong   in reply to goodnewsforyou
I understand what you are saying. For my children and myself, I have done everything I can! I have no family still living, other than my grandmother who could die any day from heart failure and a brother who lives in the country of Qatar. My Grandmother has no way to help us and my brother believes that it is my responsibility to help myself not his. My children's fathers and grandparents refuse to help! I have done nothing wrong. I do not do drugs. I do not overspend because there is noting to spend. I am an honor roll student in college, a good mother, and I was a hard worker until I lost my job in March. I can not find a job without daycare for my children. In my state you can not get daycare assistants without a job. I have tried to receive services from every agency I can find. Everywhere I go I am turned away and told I do not qualify or I go on the waiting lists. All the shelters in a 100 mile radius have a 4 to 6 month waiting list. I have no bad habits other than being determined and occasionally outspoken. I go to church. I have done everything I can other than to give up my children or my education and I would die before I did either of those. I am going to school to make my children's lives better and my children are MY life. I myself have seen these people you speak of who use and abuse the system. I feel that those people are part of the reason I can not get help. So please, what do you say to someone in my situation?
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to vistahelp
thanks! your pages have some great links. Perhaps you should copy them over to a blog so they will be permanently visible across the internet.
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goodnewsforyou   in reply to Mom trying to stay strong
ok, I modified it. Is this acceptable?

3) If you are desperate, ask yourself, "Where's family?". Parents, siblings, Aunts, Uncles, cousins, relatives.Try to reconcile with family and work out a living arrangement with them. Family is the first place one should go to. There are very few complete orphans. Most people have family somewhere. You may have to humble yourself and in fact, you may be the problem and need to change. This truth may be hard for you to accept.
Also there are homeless shelters that will provide you food and a place to live if you follow their strict rules.
Longer term, get rid of bad habits, rely on God, spend carefully, work hard - in short, help yourself. I have observed that people who are always asking for money (and surprisingly, preachers too) are wasteful and extravagant, even more than wealthy.
A former dentist at a community dental clinic was shocked to find that the patients who were on welfare and asking for full assistance on their dental treatment bills, had fancy i-phones that even she could not afford.
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vistahelp
Good for you! You set very simple and fair requirements and verification process. She may not be a scammer but did not fulfill your fair requirement to get your money help... and your are giving great advice for all AidPage users. Thank you.
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Mom trying to stay strong
I would sure like to know where these shelters are because I have tried all of them in my area and they are full. I understand what you are saying about scammers but the last remark is a little offensive to someone like me. I have done everything right and still can not seem to get my 4 kids and myself into a shelter. Please think before you post something like this. There are some of us out here that are desperate and unable to get help!
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